This weekend I lost someone very close to me. Someone who I watched grow up to become an amazing woman. Someone who had lived an incredible life because she refused to be held back. While she was here with us she shared her excitement, joy and passion for life with everyone around her. She never worried much about what people thought of her, she just always did what she thought was right. She had an unshakeable faith in God through Christ and I am thankful I have her as a role model.
She was taken from this world far too soon. She had lived a great life, but she had so much life left to live. She had dreams and goals to do incredible things in the lives of others and I was excited to see what was to come. This weekend that excitement has turned to wonder as she will never have the opportunity to continue to chase those dreams. But then again, I guess she is currently living the ultimate dream.
Lindsey was a great person to have as a friend and her family was the best to talk too. I spent summer after summer at their house swimming and playing video games with her brothers. I would spend hours trying to beat her dad’s top score on his golf pin-ball machine, with no success… But while I loved her family it was her that I was closest to.
This weekend I found myself working through the waves of emotions that come when you lose a family member or close friend. I spent time expressing my emotions with others on Facebook and read story after story of how Lindsey affected the lives of others. It was in these moments that I noticed something. It was amazing to me that the loss of Lindsey did something incredible, it brought a community together without any of us physically being together.
The stories that were shared online were so detailed that you could picture yourself being there. Sometimes I would be reading a memory from someone and then realize that I had been there. The people Lindsey was close to were people that I had known for years, we all knew each other from various events, schools or activities. I, however, had not talked with or seen most of these people in years. I was not sure what was going on in their lives, where they lived, where they were going to school. I had very limited information on most all of these people who were spending time remembering Lindsey but that did not matter. On that day, during that moment we were all connected, we were all doing the same thing… Remembering.
It was amazing to me how one person could make a comment and it would bring back a flood of memories. How one picture would remind me of that time that we did……
As I entered my morning trapped in my sorrow, I ended my day feeling up lifted; I even felt a little joy inside my heart.
That is when it hit me, only someone who lived a life full of joy could continue to bring joy even after they are gone. The reason there were so many great memories was because Lindsey spent her life making great memories. Yes she is gone, but she did not leave us with nothing, in fact she left us with everything! She gave all that she had to the people she loved. She poured herself into relationships with others. She served with her arms and heart left open. She never turned her back on a person in need. She had a way about her that brought comfort in times of pain, and light in times of darkness. And that is what she is still doing.
When I was hurting from her loss, when my soul was in a dark place of mourning, I felt it. I felt her brighten my life, lift up my soul and remind me of the joy that she had for everything. Yes I am so sad that she gone, but I am so overjoyed that I had the opportunity to have her in my life.
Let me leave you with this lesson I learned from Lindsey this weekend.
Life is too short to spend in fear.
And if that’s where you are, there is a hand that is near.
For you to take hold of, and grip with all your might,
Because one day you’re here, and your gone the next night.
Live life to the fullest,
Don’t worry about the road.
It’s not about the path that you travel,
But the people that you come to know.
And when it comes to people, treat them like a friend,
Because when your gone all that matters is what you left in them.
Did you do your best to show them what real love is all about.
Or did you speak of a faith that your life was lived without.
Did you dance to every song,
Not worried who would see?
Did you laugh at every joke,
And when you smile show all your teeth?
I did,
Not because I wanted your attention at the time,
But because I want you to remember to hold your hands up on the ride.
Because its short and you never know when it will end.
But if you have lived it right, your memories will bring joy to all your friends.
How are you living?
Challenge Today… Impact tomorrow.
Lindsey Did.